A Crip in Philanthropy: Stuff I Know As a Fundraiser Who Has Muscular Dystrophy and Why It’s (Past) Time for MDA to #EndTheTelethon

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Long before I became a fundraiser with muscular dystrophy, I became a sibling to two nondisabled brothers. Stuff I Know:  Access to funding is an equity issue. If it’s an honor for kids with disabilities to fund their own health care, then let’s have all kids be poster children. Also: While my lizard brain loves the BS that I, the disabled child, “taught my parents what love *really* is,” MDA telling siblings this during the Telethon is a lousy thing to do. As fundraisers and humans.


Stuff I Know I Know As a Fundraiser Who Has Muscular Dystrophy

With thanks to everyone’s brilliance in the 10/17/20 #EndTheTelethon Twitter protest and to Dominick Evans for leading our response, which you can get in on until October 24, 2020, the day of the Muscular Dystrophy Association’s MDA Kevin Hart Kids Telethon. There’s lots of great writing about problems with the Telethon’s charity model but this post is from the fundraiser’s point of view, as much as it is from a community member’s.

1. The Past is Prologue
I’ve had more than one person angrily ask how I dare criticize this year’s Telethon when it hasn’t even happened yet. Here’s how:
 
I know that part of every well-run fundraising event is what’s called its “post-mortem.” The team examines what worked, what went wrong, and (most importantly) how to keep the problems from reoccurring.
 
I’m worried because early promotion of this year’s Telethon indicates that their last post-mortem missed – or didn’t care about  – one of their biggest problems: Jerry Lewis and his legacy of alienating the very people he claimed to serve.
 
Like most of fundraising, this ain’t rocket science: The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and we have nearly 50 years of insults and stereotypes at the Telethon that were sanctioned by MDA’s culture and leadership.
 
This screenshot shows they’re clearly ok with Jerry Lewis’ misconduct.
Screenshot of the MDA Kevin Hart Kids Telethon that includes "fondly remember the classic moments from the Jerry's Kids Telethon," and "nostalgic footage"

Promoting the MDA Kevin Hart Kids Telethon by promising to “fondly remember the classic moments from the Jerry’s Kids Telethon,” and include “nostalgic footage” indicates that MDA’s fundraising culture has not really reckoned with its internal ableism.

2. Children – including disabled children – are people. (Again – not rocket science.)

CripTip: Don’t bring children on stage and talk about them in the 3rd-person and how they could die at any time. Please note this is equally bad regardless of whether you know that you’re telling the truth or lying about this PERSON.

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Reclaim Labor Day When the First DiD Stories Go Live on 9/2/19

Coming Soon!

The first DiD stories will go live on Monday, September 2, 2019.

Why that day? Because Labor Day has many wonderful traditions and history associated with it. But one of them wasn’t so great for disabled people or fundraising:

For decades, the MDA Labor Day Telethon was where Jerry Lewis spread such damaging messages about disabled people as, “My kids cannot go into the workplace.”

Yes, that’s the past and name-checked just those of us with muscular dystrophy. But the charity model it came from is still all-too alive and well in fundraising and philanthropy.

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This Labor Day, Let’s Commit to Wiping Out the Charity Model for All People With Disabilities in Our Lifetime

The medical model of disability would keep us separated by diagnoses — different and disconnected — but the social model can bring us together — unique and united — through common concerns for our rights.
This Labor Day weekend has me feeling celebratory because there’s no Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA) Telethon on the air for the first time in 49 years.
This is great. If you’ve got that particular diagnosis. If you don’t, you may still have a problem. If, say, you’re diagnosed with autism.
People with autism are still dealing with the same dynamic of destructive messages in the fundraising that purports to help them.
Criticizing how funds are raised generates a whole lot of anger if the critics are among those who are said to benefit from the efforts.  That’s why cross-disability solidarity, disability history, and telling our own stories are so important. The medical model of disability would keep us separated by diagnoses — different and disconnected — but the social model can bring us together — unique and united — through common concerns for our rights.
I’ve said it before and it’s still true: “I look at fundraising as a means of not just supporting social change but in promoting it as well. How we raise money says a lot about our attitudes toward the cause we want to fund.”

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